Braces, Confidence & Kindness: Helping Your Child Face School Comments Like a Pro

Hey there mamas!

“Mom, will they laugh at me?”

That question can tug at your heartstrings. My 12-year-old is about to get braces, and while I’m thrilled for his future smile, I can’t help but remember my own school days—when a shiny set of brackets could spark teasing. Times have changed, but kids’ curiosity (and sometimes bluntness) hasn’t. So, how do we prepare and protect our children from bullying or hurtful comments at secondary school?

Here are five practical, heart-centered tips to help your child feel strong, confident, and supported:

1. Start with Honest Conversations

Before the braces go on, talk openly. Explain why they’re important and normalize the experience—lots of kids have them! Share your own stories if you had braces. This makes your child feel less “different” and more part of a common journey.

2. Build Their Confidence Toolbox

Confidence is the best shield against teasing. Practice positive affirmations together:“My smile is getting stronger every day.”Role-play possible comments and brainstorm calm, witty responses like:“Yep, I’m upgrading my smile—pretty cool, right?”This turns awkward moments into opportunities for self-assurance.

3. Teach Empathy and Perspective

Help your child understand that teasing, most of the times, comes from insecurity and low self esteem in others. Encourage them to respond with kindness or humor rather than anger. It’s a life skill that goes beyond braces—it’s about resilience.

4. Connect with Allies

If your child feels anxious, let teachers know in advance. Most schools have anti-bullying policies and can keep an eye out. Also, remind your child of their “safe circle”—friends who support and uplift them.

5. Celebrate the Journey

Make braces fun! Let your child choose colorful bands, plan a “braces day” treat, or track progress with photos. Turning the process into a positive experience helps shift the focus from fear to excitement.

It is important to remember that braces are temporary, but confidence lasts forever. By preparing our kids with empathy, humor, and self-love, we’re giving them tools that will serve them well beyond the classroom. And who knows? That dazzling smile might just become their superpower!

Your turn, parents! What tips or tricks have helped your child feel confident during big changes—like braces or glasses? Share your wisdom in the comments below and let’s build a community of support!

Love, Katerina