Motherhood : Is it really a choice?

Hi my valuable friends,

Welcome to my first post! Today, I want to explore a thought-provoking question: Is motherhood truly a woman's choice? Many might quickly say, "Of course it is!" But I believe the answer is more complex, and I'd love to hear your thoughts.

Recently, I read an intriguing interview with a famous Greek actress in her 50s. She openly shared that she never wanted children because she enjoyed her life as it was and preferred freedom over the obligations of motherhood. She described motherhood as being a "slave" to a child and expressed no regrets about her decision. It's her right to choose her life, right?

What shocked me were the dozens of venomous comments from readers, condemning her for not wanting kids and for using the term "slave" in relation to motherhood. These comments revealed how puritanical and hypocritical our society can be.

As a mother who deeply desired children, I understand the joy and challenges of motherhood. I prayed for children and am grateful every day for my three kids. Despite the difficulties, I find motherhood wonderful and fulfilling because it was my choice. So why can't this actress make her choice without facing harsh criticism?

Should all women choose motherhood? Do most women become mothers because they genuinely want to, or because society expects it? It's disheartening that in 2025, we still question if motherhood is truly a woman's choice. Society often implies that women who don't want children are selfish and should be ashamed. It's hard to distinguish between societal expectations and genuine desire to become a mom.

I admire the actress's bravery in acknowledging her true desires and publicly sharing them. It takes courage to follow your personal wishes, regardless of societal norms.

We must recognize that we are all unique, with different needs and purposes. Each of us should be free to design our lives as we wish, without pressure to conform to others' expectations. It's challenging, but our own personality should guide us. Why do we still need to defend our individuality in a world that increasingly embraces diversity?

If some people struggle to accept that others make their own choices, it may be because they haven't fully understood themselves. Once you know and respect yourself, you can respect others too.

Motherhood should be a choice, not a burden. No child should feel like a weight to their mother. Imagine the psychological impact on a child who feels unwanted. Motherhood is a great gift and responsibility. It demands much of our energy and time, but if it's our choice, we embrace it happily.

Let's hope for a future where everyone can freely express and live their true selves without fear of judgment. We're making progress, but there's still a long way to go. Let's strive to create a more accepting and welcoming world for our children and future generations.

Thank you for reading, and I look forward to your comments!

Always value your true self,

Katerina